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Ask Ericka is an advice column that gives my readers, fans, and supporters a chance to reach out with their personal questions and dilemmas. I am a serious minded individual. I always want to help those in need and because of my great insight about life I give great answers. I am not a licensed practitioner or counselor but I am someone who has had many experiences and have always been one that my peers have come to consult and counsel with. Ask Ericka is another way that I try to lend a hand to help those in need. In the event that you are struggling with a life-threatening or dangerous issue, I always recommend professional counseling as well. (Questions will appear as sent).
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Dear Ericka, 
 I’m only 17 and i hookup wit dis guy twice but im still a virgin. i had a crush on him durin skool and he obviously found out. i dont want to give it up b/c were not technically dating and wen skool starts were probably jus gunna avoid eachother. the times dat we did hookup he was in my oppinion high and i wonder if dats sayin sumthing abot him. should we jus remain friends or tell him to leave me alone.
                                                                                  -Miss Undecisive

Dear Miss Undecisive,
First, I commend you on not rushing into something that you feel uncomfortable about. It is important that you take the time to get to know someone before you make a choice to sleep with them because your feelings could very well get hurt. You said that you had a crush on him and it seems that now that you see him in a different light the crush is not “that serious” anymore. My suggestion to you is not to tell him to leave you alone but to tell him that you want to get to know him better. If he falls back and shows less interest that will show you that you made the right choice and you don’t have to worry about going back to school feeling played because you slept with him and he now acts like he doesn’t even know you. There is no rush. Keep me posted.

 

 

 

Hey Ericka,
My name is Antwann Floyd I am a former student of yours you taught me when I was in the seventh grade I am now a senior. I have a problem with a relationship that Im in I met this girl at this party and weve been together for 9mths and the other day i was hangin out wit her and then some other guy was there and she started to show off if you know what I mean by that and its not the first time I have come a long way with my anger so Ive held it in the past few times and I just couldnt take it anymore and i flipped out on the brother and her and I havent talked with her in two weeks. So she thinks Im the bad guy. She is a very how would you say it so its not to mean… materialistic woman thats it and Im not cheap I give her before I give myself. I really am in love with her and shes the only female that my parents really approved of. I just cant take to much more of the b.s. but Im confused because I want to try and work it out but I dont know how much longer I can take it. So Ericka what do you think I should do….
                                                                                              -Mr.Confused

Antwann,
This girl has shown you that she is playing games. She does not care enough about your feelings if she tried to play you for this other guy AND still hasn’t gotten in touch with you. Yes you may have flipped but she was not acting right and you saw it and responded. I always say, people should not play with the feelings of others and not expect a reaction. Is this the first time she did something like this? I would say have a talk with her but be prepared if things don’t look right or feel right to move on. If you accept that treatment, she will continue to dish it out. In the meantime, work on your anger because it can get you in to trouble and one bad action can ruin your whole life in an instant.

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